I do not do well when Husband leaves for overnight trips. This is completely due to my anxiety, which makes things extra sucky, but it happens. Fortunately, trips have gotten easier because I have developed some tricks and tips that help me get through. I am hoping that you readers can take some of these and use them in your own life if you are having issues. Again, because these blog posts tend to get long, I have separated them into two different blog posts so expect the next one in a week or so.
DO SOMETHING THAT YOU CAN ONLY DO WHILE YOUR LOVED ONE IS GONE
This is something can be used in other areas too (I use this trick to potty train little kids) but the same thing applies to this! If you give yourself something that you can only do while your loved one is away (watch a certain show, scrapbook, whatever) you can take away some of the anxiety of your loved one being gone. You can even take it a step further and make something for your loved one. Make it a top-secret project that you can give them when they return. It’ll be a nice surprise for them too. For me, when Husband goes out of town, we go to GameStop or the store to get me an activity to do while he’s gone. It really works, although last time I was so busy with other things that I didn’t have time to even play the game we got.
WAKE UP EARLY TO MAKE GOING TO BED EASIER
I feel like this is one of those “in theory” tips but sometimes, more often than not, if I force myself awake it will make falling asleep without my loved one easier. Of course, sometimes that doesn’t happen and I’m left with just being overtired so use this at your own discretion.
GIVE YOURSELF SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO
This tip kind of ties into all the other tips and tricks I’m offering but I think it also deserves its own heading. Giving yourself something to look forward to can help ease anxiety and even build excitement when your loved one is gone. This something to look forward to doesn’t even have to be something that happens while your loved one is gone. Set a date or a big quality time day when your loved one gets back and you can spend the time away planning or getting excited about it.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH OTHERS
I live by this one. When Husband goes out of town, I make sure that I surround myself with people. Just not any people though. I make sure I surround myself with people that I am completely comfortable around. I feel like that is so important to surround yourself with people because they can help keep your mind off your significant other being away. You can be vulnerable around them and they won’t judge you. They can be your strength if you feel like you can’t be strong.
START A NEW HOBBY
For me, when I start something new I’m completely invested for a while. Sometimes, in lieu of a game at GameStop when Husband goes out of town, I will get stuff to start a new DIY project or start a new hobby. I’ll be so engrossed in learning everything there is to know about my new hobby that I will have no concern for anything else that may be happening, which is the perfect opportunity for Husband to be out of town.